Is it possible to just be unhappy living someplace, regardless of how hard you try to make it work?|105423

I live in the Bluegrass region of Kentucky (Lawrenceburg/Harrodsburg/Versailles area.) I have tried involving myself in community activities where I live. I have waved at and tried to strike up conversations with my neighbors.

As it turns out, unless you were raised here, it_s hard to be accepted or even acknowledged. My neighbors are unpleasant, sour, and one of them even flipped me off the first time I waved at him. In retail establishments, even if you ask the cashiers how they_re doing with a smile, they do not respond in kind. Bunch of jerks...

There is much more southern hospitality in Louisville, where I_ve lived before and will be moving back to in August. I can_t wait!

you_ve got my permission to get out. I_ve lived in those towns where you_ll never really be a local but the people were still friendly and tolerant. I liked kentucky when I was there, nice people great food and beautiful woods and rivers. We were in the area south of Hendersen for the 18 year old girls softball nationals. Guess some towns will just never be home.

You can be unhappy where you live no matter how hard you try. My Aunt lives in Kentucky and she literally hates it there. She_s tried everything...she loves to garden but can_t do that because too much clay in the soil...ARGH...so she_ movin_ back to Kansas!!!!
Actually it_s also what you make of it too...Sometimes...you just can_t adjust or fit in for a number of reasons...Some small towns are like that.

wow what a crappy town. i thought miami was bad. i can_t wait to leave here. to give an answer, i believe its possible. get out of there man.

That is horrible!

I am sorry to hear about your experience.

I don_t think it matters where you are, where you have moved from, or where you live. A smile is a smile, and is a warm and genuine effort of friendship. I don_t blame you for harboring such ill feelings about such people and deciding to move away from them. I don_t think I would ever be comfortable living with those types of people, or wanting to expose myself to that type of environment for any period of time. Life is already too short and the world is already full of grudgery. Go somewhere else where your kindness will be appreciated! God knows there is a shortage of that!

Sure....anything is possible.

You know how it is in small towns.......maybe you_ve insulted someone and don_t even know you_ve done so.

But if you_re truly unhappy.....move. Why live somewhere you hate just because........

Absolutely. You already know you don_t belong in this town, and you have a plan to go somewhere else. BUT UNTIL YOU DO, you have a purpose for being where you are.

Maybe it is to connect with someone else there who doesn_t belong, or maybe it_s to show a bunch of small-town, narrow-minded people an example of someone who rises above all that and can show courtesy, warmth and humanity wherever they go.

That smile of yours may not be returned, but it will be remembered! You will never know how many hearts you touch, but you can know in your heart that you do. Then get the hell out of there...

Sure, it_s possible. I don_t think there are truly cities where people are friendlier or unfrendlier - that depends so much on the individual, but liking or disliking a particular area of the country? Sure, that happens all the time.